Celebrating Skill Building and Meaningful Engagement: Jenny’s Journey in the Kitchen

March 6, 2026

At helpz, we know that when participants are supported to learn new skills, incredible things can happen. One of the most inspiring recent examples comes from Jenny, who has been participating in a food‑preparation skill development program as part of her Behaviour Support Plan. What began as a small step into the kitchen has quickly grown into a journey of confidence, capability, and connection.

Jenny has been working closely with her Behaviour Support Practitioner, Linda Newfield (pictured with Jenny below, bottom left), and her team of support workers learn essential food‑prep skills - chopping vegetables safely, following simple recipes, organising ingredients, and using kitchen tools with growing independence. Each new skill has not only strengthened her practical abilities but has also had a ripple effect across other areas of her life. For Jenny, the kitchen has become a place where independence is celebrated. As her confidence has grown, so has her sense of self‑esteem and accomplishment. These are more than just skills; they are the foundations of greater quality of life. When participants are able to take charge in meaningful activities, their activities, their world becomes bigger, more inclusive, and more connected.

Meaningful engagement is one of the most powerful tools we have in behaviour support. Research and practice consistently show that when participants discover new interests and have opportunities to learn, create, and contribute, behaviours of concern often decrease. For Jenny, the structure and enjoyment of food preparation has provided purpose, routine, and positive interactions, each contributing to a calmer and more empowered daily experience.

A huge part of Jenny’s progress can be credited to the thoughtful work of Linda, who has developed a comprehensive cooking program now being implemented with several clients across the service. Linda’s program focuses on hands‑on learning, clear visual supports, adaptable tasks, and a strengths‑based approach that celebrates progress rather than perfection. Support workers have shared how helpful the program has been in guiding them to deliver true Active Support - breaking tasks down, offering just‑right assistance, and creating moments of success for every participant.

One of the most valuable aspects of Linda’s program is how it empowers support workers. The structure, guidance, and practical strategies allow staff to feel confident implementing Active Support in real time, making everyday activities more engaging and more inclusive. By equipping support workers with the right tools and frameworks, we strengthen our whole system of care. Participants benefit. Staff feel proud of their work. Families see meaningful progress. And the outcomes, like Jenny’s growing independence, speak for themselves.

Jenny’s story is a beautiful reminder of how skill development, meaningful engagement, and committed support can create lasting change. Her journey shows us that independence grows from opportunity, confidence grows from support, and inclusion grows when everyone is invited to participate in ways that matter. Here’s to Jenny, to Linda’s incredible cooking program, and to all the staff who make moments like these possible every day.

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Pathological Demand Avoidance, sometimes reframed as Persistent Drive for Autonomy, is a profile that many people within the autism community recognise. Although PDA is not a formal diagnosis in current diagnostic manuals, many clinicians and autistic individuals describe it as a meaningful way of understanding patterns of demand avoidance that stem from anxiety, uncertainty, and a strong need for autonomy. PDA is often misunderstood, which can lead to unhelpful assumptions or the belief that individuals are being deliberately oppositional. A neuroaffirming perspective helps us understand PDA as a valid part of neurodiversity. It shifts the focus away from control and compliance and towards emotional safety, autonomy, and collaboration. What Is PDA PDA describes an anxiety driven need to avoid everyday demands, even when the person wants to participate. These demands may feel overwhelming or threatening because they involve expectation, uncertainty, or a loss of control. Common characteristics described in the PDA profile include: A strong need to avoid demands, sometimes using strategies like humour, negotiation, distraction, or retreat A style of communication that may appear socially confident at first but does not always match deeper social understanding Rapid changes in mood, often linked to pressure or anxiety A comfort with imaginative play or adopting roles, which can help manage stressful situations These behaviours are not acts of defiance. They are protective responses from a nervous system that experiences demands as a source of intense stress. Is PDA a Diagnosis PDA is not recognised as an independent diagnosis in the DSM or ICD. Many professionals view it as a profile within autism, while others see it as a pattern that can appear in a range of neurodivergent presentations. There is ongoing debate, and research is still developing. Despite this, PDA is increasingly recognised in multidisciplinary autism assessments, particularly in the United Kingdom. Families and practitioners often find the PDA framework useful because it offers a way to understand demand avoidance compassionately and practically. Why Understanding PDA Matters People with PDA are often described as oppositional or non compliant, when in reality their behaviour reflects: high anxiety sensitivity to expectations a need for predictability a strong drive for autonomy and control When misunderstood, young people and adults with PDA may experience unnecessary conflict, shame, or burnout. A more informed perspective encourages compassion and supportive strategies instead of pressure or discipline. Neuroaffirming Approaches to Supporting PDA Supporting individuals with PDA is most effective when the focus is on reducing pressure, building trust, and supporting autonomy. Reduce Demands Where Possible Small changes can make a big difference. Indirect language, gentle invitations, choices, humour, and collaborative problem solving reduce pressure and help the person stay regulated. Traditional reward systems or consequences often increase anxiety and are less effective. Increase Autonomy A sense of control helps reduce distress. Offering choices, negotiating tasks, and allowing flexibility helps build cooperation and reduces overwhelm. Support Emotional Safety PDA is closely linked to anxiety and uncertainty. Predictable routines, sensory supports, clear expectations, and a calm supportive presence can help reduce stress. Connection and co regulation often pave the way for engagement. Work With Strengths Creativity, quick thinking, focused interests, humour, and imaginative play are often strong tools for learning and communication. Using these strengths helps build confidence and makes participation feel safe. A Neurodiversity Affirming Perspective Some clinicians and advocates argue that the term PDA can be pathologising, because it suggests something is wrong with a person’s natural need for autonomy. Alternative terms like Persistent Drive for Autonomy reflect a more respectful understanding of how the individual experiences the world. This perspective views PDA as a difference rather than a problem and focuses on approaches that prioritise dignity, safety, and empowerment. Summary PDA is a meaningful way to understand how some autistic and neurodivergent individuals respond to demands. It is not about refusing for the sake of it. It is about managing anxiety, protecting autonomy, and navigating a world that often feels unpredictable or overwhelming. Awareness and compassionate understanding help families, educators, support workers, and clinicians create environments where individuals with PDA can feel heard, respected, and supported to thrive. References PDA Society. Identification and Assessment of a PDA Profile. Gerlach, J. (2024). Five Things to Know About Pathological Demand Avoidance. Psychology Today. Naseef, R., Shore, S. (2025). Reframing Pathological Demand Avoidance. Autism Spectrum News. Science Insights (2026). What Is a PDA Diagnosis. AuDHD Psychiatry UK (2026). What Is PDA Autism. PDA North America (2025). Understanding and Supporting PDA.